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Be You

The unexamined life is not worth living

--Socrate 


Hey, today I would like to talk about being our true selves, here is what I mean. Life is full of pressure right? In the sense that there is this expectation from family, friends, and society such that, they expect you to be a certain way. You tend to hear things like "you cannot be age X and not married," "or you cannot be 38 years of age and change your career you should have decided that by now," or the famous one, "you need to be like so and so."

Whoever comes up with such "things" I do not know, but I think people tend to pass things from what has happened to them and as a result, try and pass it to you. I mean it's only natural for instance, a bully will bully someone because they have been bullied before, most parents tend to treat their children the way they may have been treated and the cycle continues. 

When you think of it, it's only natural that you expect those close to you to mean well right? and they can not give you bad advice, or want anything bad for you, but we have to remember they are still human beings at the end of the day. So it becomes easier to believe what you hear from these people and to hold it as nothing but the truth. So I guess it is like the saying "that whoever says their mother's cooking is the best has not traveled." I mean that says it all it is only when you expose yourself and realize most of those"comments" (or whatever they are) are nothing but insecurities passed from generation to generation.

So what is my point? You know they say the best days of our lives are the day we are born and the day we realize why. But, let's face it, you are not going to discover that just like that for reasons I am not going to get into today. We all know you have to fight for that, and please do not ask me why? do not get caught up in the why? you will go mad. That's how the world is, I suggest you ask yourself why not? why not fight for what you want? why not go for what you wish for? why not be the first in your family to achieve the impossible? why not be the first in your community to be different? why not you be the change you want to see?

This translates to knowing first that you have one life, one body, and you are the driver of your life, no one, and mean no one should be your life director. Now let me not lie to you it is a tough position because you have to literally live in a type of way that you almost do not care about what your family, friends, or community are thinking. But please don't get me wrong I am not saying you become rude and can not take any advice from anyone no. I am saying you can listen to them but you decide for yourself, you are the final determiner so to speak.

Do not dare live with anyone's expectations, that, you ought to be in a certain type of way. No, the point is, move with your pace, not someone else's, and do not reciprocate what they are trying to impose on you, you do not need to change anything for anyone unless you are doing it to improve your life. Your life is yours and yours alone, just be you.

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